In an effort to catch up all the stories on visitation I have decided to write stories as I remember. Try and upload all the videos and pictures without telling you the dates or visitation number. So many things happen each time I have them that I would like to be able to blog right after each visit. Visitation started on September 11th and I have had the boys every Saturday and Monday, with a few Monday exceptions. The two Monday's that we missed the boys were sick, and that was passed to me so I was sick the following Monday. I did not want to give the sickness back to the boys so I passed on my day. It really pained me to do so, but I really wanted them to stay healthy.
Madame X at each later visitation started trying to hide behind trees or sit and read a book far far away to try and help get the boys used to being around me without her. I very much appreciated the fact that she had taken her be thoughtful pills and was trying help the boys adjust. The boys during each visit would ask for her less and less. Beck one time caught on to her hiding and searched the park in circles calling her name. Beck pointed to her vehicle and said Mommy ca. He knew she was around there somewhere. Madame X eventually gave in and came out from hiding. Sometimes the boys would go find her and she would try and get them to go back to playing with me. It was almost as if the boys used her for a safety zone that they could call time out in our playing. They would sit with her for a bit and then come play. Killian sat down on a bench near her once and I said come on Killian let's go play. He said, "No, sit". I guess we had tired him out.
We switched up parks in an effort for the boys to not get bored with things. On Monday's I am by myself with the boys during my visits. On Saturday's Mom comes with me. One Monday I was trying to watch both boys by myself at Mapleton city park. That can become hard as the boys personalities are polar opposites, so they will invariably want to go opposite directions at the same time. What is a Dad to do? I stayed on the ground by Beck and Killian went up to the top by the slide. I thought he was going to work his way over to the slide and I would need to be able to catch him when he came down. The boys are usually very good about only going to the places that we have told them they can go. There are openings up high for older kids to slide down poles or climb up and down ladders. While I was watching Beck and waiting on Killian, I heard Killian laugh his mischievous laugh so I turned and looked up. I am fortunate to be a level 11 ninja and level 7 samurai. My reflexes needed to be fast this day. Like I alluded to in an earlier blog Killian trusted Dad to catch him wherever he was. Killian had jumped off by the opening for kids to slide down the pole. I was ten feet below this opening watching Beck. I turned, looked up and was barely able to grab him fast enough before he crashed. Killian started laughing like a maniac when I caught him. The closer Killian gets to crashing, the more he loves it. I have no idea which parent he gets that from. I had no time to be scared. There was only time to react. The first thing I did after I caught him was make sure Madame X wasn't witness to our son jumping from ten feet. Then I made sure Killian was okay, and told him if he ever did that again, Beck would be my new favorite twin.
I decided eventually that the boys were comfortable enough with me that I could pick them up at their house, instead of meeting Madame X somewhere. The first time I picked them up Killian asked for Nemo the entire drive to the park. Madame X has DVD players attached to the back of her seat rests and the boys watch Finding Nemo when they travel. I guess Daddy was going to have to find some players. Fortunately for me, I have a lot of people looking out for me and Dawn loaned me hers to use until I could afford my own. When I hit play with the DVD players, the RCA dogs come up and Beck and Killian say doggies! I guess I had asked Beck too many times how many dogs there were and what does a doggie say, because one day I turned the players on, the dogs came up and Beck yelled, "two doggies, woof woof" before I could even ask.
The boys like construction equipment. They like to push things in front of them. They also like to push their way through bushes. They like to explore the church behind Mom's house. And Beck likes to sit on the yellow handicapped ramps at the end of sidewalks. Beck uses the word biggie to describe most things he thinks are big. Being boys, they of course, like to climb everything they can. When I first started having the boys, I tried to let Beck dictate where we were going to go. He is now more adventurous than he was before.
Sometimes I pick the boys up and they cry. Other times, they run to me. I loaded Beck into the truck crying and Killian started trying to help Beck by saying, "Beck, pawk, Beck, pawk." He then looked at me and said, "he cwyin."
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